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Who was Mary of Bethany? (Martha and Lazarus' sister)

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Mary of Bethany was the sister of Martha and Lazarus, from the village of Bethany near Jerusalem, and one of the people the Gospels show Jesus being closest to. She appears three times, and each time she is at his feet: listening, grieving, and anointing him.

She is a different woman from Mary Magdalene, and a different woman again from Mary the mother of Jesus, three people, one very common name.

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Who was Mary of Bethany? (Martha and Lazarus' sister)

Analysis

Sitting at his feet was not a small thing

Luke 10:39 places her at the Lord's feet, which is the ordinary description of a disciple learning from a teacher, the same phrase used of Paul's training under Gamaliel (Acts 22:3). In a first-century setting the position, and the instruction that went with it, was not typically a woman's. Martha's complaint is that Mary is not helping; Jesus' reply is that she has chosen well and it will not be taken from her (Luke 10:42). The passage is frequently read as being about busyness versus rest, and that reading is available, but the plain terms of it are about a woman being received as a student.

The anointing, and why she is often confused with other women

Her anointing of Jesus is recorded in John 12:1-John 12:8. Similar scenes appear elsewhere, and how many separate events lie behind them is genuinely debated.

ViewPositionHeld by
Two eventsThe Bethany anointing (Matthew 26:6; Mark 14:3; John 12:3) is one occasion, reported with differences of detail, head or feet, and the anointing by an unnamed sinful woman in Galilee (Luke 7:37) is a separate, earlier oneThe most widely held reading
Three eventsThe differences between Matthew/Mark and John are read as marking two distinct Bethany occasions, with Luke's a thirdA minority reading
One eventAll the accounts describe a single occasion recorded with substantial variationA minority reading

Only in the merged reading does Mary of Bethany become the sinful woman of Luke 7:37, and that merger is where the confusion with Mary Magdalene starts. The three-women conflation is set out in our answer on Mary Magdalene. The relevant facts here are plain: Luke 7:37 names no one, it is set in Galilee rather than Bethany, and nothing in any Gospel calls Mary of Bethany a sinner, a prostitute, or a Magdalene.

What her name is attached to

The perfume was worth about three hundred denarii (John 12:5), which the same Gospel elsewhere treats as roughly a year's wages for a labourer (Matthew 20:2 gives a denarius as a day's pay). Judas' objection that it should have been sold for the poor is recorded, and so is John's note about his motive (John 12:6). Jesus' answer ties the act to his burial and says it will be remembered (Mark 14:8; Mark 14:9).

The Bethany household

Bethany sits about two miles from Jerusalem (John 11:18), and the family appears to have been where Jesus stayed when he came up to the city. John 11:5 states plainly that he loved Martha, her sister, and Lazarus. The raising of Lazarus (John 11:43; John 11:44) is the last and greatest of the signs in John's Gospel and the immediate trigger for the plot against Jesus (John 11:45; John 11:53).

Not the other Marys

The catalogue records several women named Mary. The ones readers most often confuse: Mary of Bethany, this woman; Mary Magdalene, freed of seven demons and the first witness of the resurrection; Mary the mother of Jesus; and Mary the wife of Clopas, at the cross (John 19:25).

Sources, trace every one

Every cited verse, in full. Tap any reference to open it in the reader.

  • Luke 10:38bsb

    As they traveled along, Jesus entered a village where a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home.

  • Luke 10:39bsb

    She had a sister named Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to His message.

  • Luke 10:40bsb

    But Martha was distracted by all the preparations to be made. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her to help me!”

  • Luke 10:41bsb

    “Martha, Martha,” the Lord replied, “you are worried and upset about many things.

  • Luke 10:42bsb

    But only one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, and it will not be taken away from her.”

  • John 11:1bsb

    At this time a man named Lazarus was sick. He lived in Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha.

  • John 11:20bsb

    So when Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet Him, but Mary stayed at home.

  • John 11:28bsb

    After Martha had said this, she went back and called her sister Mary aside to tell her, “The Teacher is here and is asking for you.”

  • John 11:32bsb

    When Mary came to Jesus and saw Him, she fell at His feet and said, “Lord, if You had been here, my brother would not have died.”

  • John 11:33bsb

    When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come with her also weeping, He was deeply moved in spirit and troubled.

  • John 11:35bsb

    Jesus wept.

  • John 12:1bsb

    Six days before the Passover, Jesus came to Bethany, the hometown of Lazarus, whom He had raised from the dead.

  • John 12:3bsb

    Then Mary took about a pint of expensive perfume, made of pure nard, and she anointed Jesus’ feet and wiped them with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the perfume.

  • John 12:4bsb

    But one of His disciples, Judas Iscariot, who was going to betray Him, asked,

  • John 12:5bsb

    “Why wasn’t this perfume sold for three hundred denarii and the money given to the poor?”

  • John 12:7bsb

    “Leave her alone,” Jesus replied. “She has kept this perfume in preparation for the day of My burial.

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